5 Lessons for When You’re Single as a Pringle (and Not Loving It)

Relationships

Jun 3

Dude, sometimes singleness sucks. From scrolling through Instagram proposals to showing up as a third wheel to attending a wedding without a plus one (again), it’s easy to feel left out. You’ve heard over and over that singleness is a gift. But the honest truth is that you’re single as a Pringle—and totally not loving it.

While friends seem to be moving forward with their lives, you’re stuck in waiting mode. It’s completely normal to wonder, “What about me, God?”

Growing up, I actually spent very little time being single. I was the gal who jumped from one relationship to the next. From dating a guy in high school for two awkward months (he turned out to be gay… *insert laughing emoji)… to entering my first serious three-year relationship… to hanging out with a guy who couldn’t commit… to dating long-distance… to breaking off an engagement, I had done the whole nine yards. I was a pro at avoiding singleness.

I didn’t want it. I didn’t know how to be alone. And I didn’t believe in the good that Jesus had for me, especially if it wasn’t a tall, dark, and handsome man. I thought a romantic partner would satisfy me. But it wasn’t until I found myself single after leaving an abusive relationship, that I realized the good Jesus had in store for me.

I spent the next few years in one of the most purposeful, powerful seasons of my life. It was here—in the sometimes sucky, but surprisingly beautiful season of singleness that I rooted my identity in Christ, healed from trauma, nurtured my friendships, grew closer to my family, and built my online ministry.

Through that unexpected season, God taught me five powerful lessons that completely changed how I viewed singleness—lessons that helped me live fully, love intentionally, and lean into God’s goodness.

Lesson 1: Your relationship status is not your identity

First things first, your relationship status is absolutely no indication of your significance or importance. Seriously. I know you may know that, but let it sink in: whether you’re with or without someone, God is always with you. Your identity doesn’t change. You’re worthy because God made you worthy in his image. Period. End of story. When you feel discouraged because you haven’t found “your person”, speak truth over yourself: No one can complete you or make you whole, except Jesus. No one else will satisfy.

Lesson 2: This season of singleness is currently God’s best for you

Friend, God has placed you right where you are for a purpose. He’s not holding anything back from you—nothing surprises him and nothing can stop his plans. If we truly believe God works all things together for the good of those who love him, then we need to live like singleness is a gift he’s given us. (No matter how annoying it is to hear someone tell you that.) This season of singleness? It’s not a waiting room or a setback—it’s currently God’s best for you. Take a moment to reflect on how he’s growing you.

Lesson 3: Loving yourself well looks like loving God well first

Connecting with God is is the best thing you can do for your soul. When you spend time with him daily, you’re not just checking a box—you’re laying a foundation. This season may be the most time you’ll ever have to grow your relationship with Jesus, so use it well. Culture tells us that self-love looks like taking bubble baths, going on solo trips, and cutting off anyone who disagrees with you. Those things have their place. But here’s the deeper truth: you can’t fully love yourself until you love the one who loved you first.

Lesson 4: Be intentional in growing deeper friendships

God built us for community. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, friendship is necessary. There are some things the opposite sex will simply never understand. (Ahem. Cough. Cough. What it’s like to a have a period every freaking month.) And that’s totally okay. If our partner could meet our every need, we wouldn’t see our need for God. Show up when it’s inconvenient, initiate get togethers, forgive easily, and love hard. Life-long friendships are a beautiful thing.

Lesson 5: Find joy in serving others

It’s so easy to compare yourself and to wish for something you don’t have. One of the best solutions is to get your eyes off yourself. Serve in your local church. Start a business. Volunteer at a shelter. Host a weekly get together. When you shift your focus to loving and serving others, you create space for deeper joy and connection. God uses this not just to bless others, but to heal and grow you. Be faithful with what’s in front of you and ask God how you can serve someone today.

Friend, God isn’t withholding from you. He’s inviting you into something greater than you imagined—something that’s more fulfilling than just a relationship status. Singleness isn’t a pause on your life. It’s a season filled with opportunities to grow, heal, love, and build the kind of life that honors God.

So if you’re single as a Pringle and totally not loving it, take heart. You’re not alone and you’re not forgotten. God delights in you. And he’s doing something beautiful in this chapter, even when you can’t see it yet.

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